Punishing Your Submissive: Ideas For Consensual BDSM Punishments
When you’re participating in BDSM play, punishments play an important role both before and after the actual event. Before you begin the session, make sure to talk with your dominant about the things that are and are not off-limits to you so that you’re prepared mentally and physically if they choose to cross one of your boundaries. During the session, punishments can serve to keep the submissive more focused on their submission during the punishment period, as well as serve as reminders that they have broken the limits or gone against the dominant’s wishes in some way.
What is a BDSM punishment?
First and foremost, it must be consensual. Punishment can be a form of discipline or it can be sexual in nature. What sort of punishments are we talking about? Well, there are many different types of punishments that you could choose from. So how do BDSM punishments work? As a submissive, you should have limits when it comes to the types of things you're willing to do and not willing to do.
A lot of people think that BDSM is all about pain, but it's also about pleasure. When you're punishing your partner in the bedroom, it's not for them to feel bad - it's for them to feel good. It's up to you as the dominant to decide what kind of consequences are appropriate. If you want to avoid hurting them, then spanking might be a good idea; if you want them to suffer more, then maybe something like temperature play or wax play would work better!
Why do people enjoy BDSM punishment?
One of the most common reasons people enjoy BDSM punishment is because it allows them to explore their sexuality without any repercussions. As long as the Dominant and Submissive are consenting adults, they can do anything they want - no questions asked. There is also a sense of trust that comes into play when someone agrees to a BDSM punishment. For example, if someone agrees to be spanked, the person will often have sex with their partner in order to show how much they trust that person. It's a way for partners to say I trust you so I'll let you hurt me.
Another reason people enjoy BDSM punishments is because it releases endorphins. These endorphins can provide an emotional high for some people who might not get this type of thrill from everyday life activities.
If a person enjoys BDSM punishment, it is important to remember the rules about consent. If someone does not give full consent or does not agree with what is happening, then it should stop immediately.
Rules for BDSM punishments
There are no universal rules for how to do BDSM punishments. Each relationship is different and should be negotiated with communication before starting a BDSM punishment.
Rules for BDSM punishments vary depending on the relationship dynamic, but some general rules are:
- The person who has been punished must accept their punishment.
- The Dominant should never punish another Dominant or a submissive unless they were specifically asked to do so by the submissive or Dominant.
- Punishments should not be used in anger, and should never involve an object that could cause serious harm to someone's body.
- A punishment should be designed with the specific needs of the person receiving it in mind. There is no one-size-fits-all solution.
What might seem appropriate for one individual might feel excessive for another, and what feels good today may not work tomorrow. Instead of asking yourself - What am I going to do? Ask yourself - How would I like this done?
What are some popular BDSM punishments?
Let's talk about some of the popular BDSM punishments. To start with, you should establish what your submissive's limits are. Discussing limits will allow both partners to get to know each other and better understand how to make the experience a pleasurable one for both parties. Whether it be low or high impact play this is an important step in the process for safe play.
1. Spanking
Spanking is a form of corporal punishment that delivers blows to the buttocks or other parts of the body, typically with an open hand. It can also be done with sex toys such as whip or a belt. This is good for beginners as it doesn't require much practice.
2. Cuckolding
Cuckolding is a BDSM practice in which the dominant partner has intercourse with their submissive partner while they themselves receive stimulation from an outsider.
3. Temperature play
Temperature play involves alternating hot and cold sensations to create different types of pain. One of the easiest ways to do it is with ice cubes. Take an ice cube and slide it over your partner's body, especially erogenous zones. You can also use glass sex toys, and make them warm or cold by putting them in cold or hot water.
4. Wax play
Wax play is when candles or wax are dripped onto skin for erotic pleasure. Make sure that you are using the right candles that do not irritate human skin.
5. Bondage
Bondage may be another form of punishment as well. If you are new to BDSM you can use a scarf, silk cuffs or even zip ties. If you have learned bondage techniques then use a rope. Make sure that the rope is meant for human skin, otherwise it can leave razor burns on your partner's body.
6. Humiliation
Humiliation can come from many different sources. You can humiliate someone verbally and physically. Some people like to humiliate their partner in public.
7. Restriction
Restriction is often used to not only punish but also heighten sensitivity during a scene. To restrict someone you can use things you may already have at home such as zip ties, duct tape or a scarf. This can also be done with handcuffs, wrist cuffs for bondage rope.
8. Servitude
Servitude means that the submissive serves their dom and does everything they are asking for. Servitude could include chores around the house, like cleaning or cooking.
9. Orgasm denial
Some doms are really into not letting their submissive have an orgasm. Orgasm denial might also be part of your plan for discipline depending on your agreement with your partner.
10. Edging
Edging means bringing someone close but never letting them achieve release, while being denied any form of stimulation (except maybe being held). It creates a lot of sexual tension for submissive.
11. Pegging
Pegging involves using anal sex toys on a man such as wearing strap-on dildos and using them on their anus in order to punish them as they're not typically receptive to this type of stimulation normally.
12. Ball torture
Ball torture is another way to provide discipline and pain without physical contact which does wonders for keeping blood circulation going so as to avoid clotting and pressure sores which cause damage to the tissue.
What should I do after a BDSM punishment session?
Aftercare refers to caring for your submissive after intense BDSM sessions. Some forms of aftercare can include feeding them, massaging them, bathing them and generally making sure they're feeling okay. One popular type of aftercare is called afterglow. It's when you show love and affection towards your submissive by kissing them on the cheek or neck as well as stroking their hair to reassure them that everything will be okay. Some people also believe it helps soothe any fears about what just happened during the session.
Aftercare should always be discussed before engaging in these types of activities because most people enjoy pain in a very short period of time before they want relief. Be sure you talk about these things before starting so that everyone is clear on expectations, if any, aftercare plans and intentions if something were to happen that caused harm.
How can I make sure BDSM punishment is safe and consensual?
To make sure BDSM punishment is safe and consensual, you should talk to your partner about what they like and don't like. Be clear about what is and isn't ok. Communicate openly with each other. Establish a safe word. And have a plan for aftercare in case anything unexpected happens.
How do I know if someone wants me to punish them? It's easy! If your partner says something like give me something I deserve or I need this, that could be a request for punishment. You can also ask them directly if they want you to discipline them. The more open communication between partners the better!
There you have it!
We hope you learned more about how BDSM punishments work. When it comes to sex, it all should be done with consent. Never get involved in any sexual activity if you don't want to or because someone has persuaded you. Sex is all about fun and exploration. Thank you for reading, and we will see you next time!
