Impact Play - The Spanking Good Time in BDSM

Impact Play - The Spanking Good Time in BDSM

If you've ever found yourself whispering the words "harder" or "spank me" while in the heat of passion, congratulations! You're already familiar with the tantalizing world of impact play. For the uninitiated, impact play is a delightful little corner of the BDSM universe where consenting adults indulge in the pleasure of pain. Strap in (or should I say, strap on?), because we're about to dive into the wickedly wonderful realm of spanking, flogging, and more!

Introduction to Impact Play

First things first: let's unravel the bare-bottom basics. To put it simply, impact play is any form of consensual BDSM activity that involves striking one person (the bottom) with an object or body part, typically for the purpose of giving pleasure or disciplining the other person. This can entail spanking, flogging, caning, or slapping, just to name a few activities.

The "impact" part of impact play refers to the physical sensation experienced by the bottom, while the "play" part refers to the fun and enjoyment both participants receive from the activity. After all, what's life without a little slap and tickle?

Impact Play VS Hitting and Striking

While impact play and "hitting" in the context of BDSM may seem similar, there are some important distinctions to take into account.

As we already explained, impact play is a consensual form of BDSM activity that involves striking one person (the bottom) with an object or body part, typically for pleasure or discipline. It involves a range of practices such as spanking, flogging, caning, and paddling. Impact play is characterized by its focus on safety, consent, communication, and mutual enjoyment. When practised safely, it sure is fun!

On the other hand, "hitting" in BDSM could be interpreted as a more general term for any form of physical contact involving striking or slapping. This term might not necessarily emphasize the importance of consent, safety, and communication which are crucial in impact play. You should always have consent from both parties. In some cases, "hitting" could be seen as a negative or non-consensual act, which is not in line with the principles of responsible BDSM practice.

To conclude, while impact play involves striking or hitting, it is a specific subset of BDSM activities that prioritizes consent, safety, and communication. Again, it's essential to ensure that both partners are on the same page and understand the difference between consensual impact play and non-consensual hitting before engaging in any BDSM activities.

Choosing Your Weapon of Choice


When it comes to impact play, there's plenty of options to satisfy your cravings. Here's a quick rundown of some popular tools of the trade:

  1. Hands: The original, all-natural, eco-friendly impact play tool. Perfect for beginners and those who prefer a more intimate connection during their spanking sessions. The best part - it's free!
  2. Paddles: Available in a variety of materials like leather, wood, or even silicone, paddles provide a satisfying thud and a delicious sting for the receiving end. Plus, they make an excellent prop for role-playing scenarios.
  3. Floggers: These multi-tailed beauties can create a range of sensations, from gentle caresses to sharp stings, depending on the material and technique used. Just a reminder: with great power comes great responsibility.
  4. Canes: For those who are more experienced impact play enthusiasts, canes provide an intense, pinpointed sensation that can be both exhilarating and challenging. But remember: caning requires skill and precision to avoid injury, so practice makes perfect!
  5. Belts: Not just for holding up your pants, belts can also serve as a versatile impact play tool. Just make sure to remove any buckles or sharp edges before getting down to business, so that no party gets hurt.

How to Play Nice (While Playing Naughty)

As with all sexual activities, safety should be at the forefront of your mind when engaging in impact play. Here are some tips to ensure everyone has a spanking good time:

Communication is key

Discuss boundaries, desires, and limits with your partner beforehand. You should always establish a safe word to use if things get too intense.


At first start slow and gentle, gradually build up intensity to help the bottom's body adjust to the sensation.

Aim carefully

Make sure to focus on fleshy areas like the buttocks and thighs, avoiding joints, bones, and organs.

Know when to stop

Regularly check in with your partner and pay attention to their body language. If they're in distress or using their safeword, it's time to stop.

Getting Into Position: The Best Ways to Ensure a Smack-tacular Experience

Finding the perfect position for impact play can be just as important as choosing your instrument of pleasure. A good position allows the top (the person doing the striking) to have control and accuracy, while providing comfort and stability for the bottom. Don't be afraid to experiment! Here are some fan-favorite positions to try out:

  1. Over-the-knee: A classic for a reason, the over-the-knee position offers stability and intimacy. The bottom lies face down across the top's lap, with their legs resting on either side. This position allows for excellent control and communication between both partners. You can't go wrong with this classic!
  2. Bent over furniture: For those who prefer a bit more support, bending the bottom over a sturdy piece of furniture like a bed, couch, or even a spanking bench can work wonders. This position provides a stable surface for the bottom and easy access to their buttocks for the top.
  3. Standing: If you're looking for a more dynamic option, having the bottom stand with their hands against a wall or holding onto a sturdy object can be exhilarating. The top can move around the bottom, exploring different angles and sensations. Just make sure the bottom has something to hold onto for balance and enjoy the view!
  4. Restraint-based positions: For those who are more adventurous, incorporating restraints like cuffs, ropes, or spreader bars can add an extra layer of excitement to your impact play session. Remember, always prioritize safety when using restraints and have a plan for quick release if necessary.

Experiment with these positions, and don't be afraid to get creative! The key is to find a position that feels comfortable and enjoyable for both partners while allowing for accurate and controlled impact. Don't be discouraged if it takes you some time to find the position for you.


Techniques and Tips for Paddling

Paddling, a popular form of impact play, involves striking the bottom's fleshy areas (usually the buttocks) with a flat, rigid tool known as a paddle. Paddles come in various shapes, sizes, and materials, each offering a unique experience for the adventurous souls who wield them. Let's explore the ins and outs of paddling, from choosing the perfect paddle to mastering your technique.

Picking Your Paddle: A Smorgasbord of Sensations

When it comes to paddles, there's no one-size-fits-all option. The type of paddle you choose can drastically impact the sensation it delivers. Here's a breakdown of some common paddle materials and their unique characteristics:

  1. Leather: A classic choice, leather paddles provide a satisfying balance between thud and sting. They can be soft and supple or rigid and firm, depending on the thickness and type of leather used. Some even feature padding for an added layer of cushion. This a lot of people's favourite for a reason.
  2. Wood: Wooden paddles pack a powerful punch, delivering a deep, thuddy sensation that penetrates the muscle. They can vary in weight and rigidity, making them suitable for a wide range of impact play enthusiasts.
  3. Plastic or Acrylic: These synthetic paddles offer a sharp, stinging sensation that can be quite intense. They're easy to clean and maintain, making them a hygienic option for those who like to share their toys. As well as this option probably will be more affordable than other materials.
  4. Silicone: Silicone paddles are versatile, offering a mix of thud and sting depending on the design and thickness. They're also easy to clean and hypoallergenic, making them ideal for those with sensitive skin or allergies.

Now that you've chosen your paddle, it's time to master the art of paddling. Here are some techniques and tips to follow, so that you can ensure a pleasurable experience for both the top and the bottom:

  1. Start slow and gentle: Begin with light taps and gradually increase the intensity, giving the bottom time to adjust to the sensation. This warm-up phase can help prevent injury and make the experience more enjoyable for both parties.
  2. Aim for fleshy areas: The buttocks and upper thighs are prime targets for paddling, as they have ample padding to absorb the impact. Avoid striking the lower back, kidneys, spine, or other bony areas to minimize the risk of injury.
  3. Vary the angle and impact point: Experiment with different angles and striking points to create a range of sensations. This can keep the experience fresh and exciting for the bottom while allowing the top to practice their precision and control. It can also catch your partner by suprise adding more pleassure to your sex life.
  4. Communicate: Remember to regularly check in with your partner to gauge their comfort and enjoyment. Encourage them to provide feedback on the intensity and pacing of the paddling session.

Resources on Impact Play

There are numerous resources available to help you learn about impact play and develop your skills. Here's a list of some of the best resources to get started:


Many comprehensive guides on BDSM and kink include sections dedicated to impact play. Some popular titles include "The New Topping Book" by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, "SM 101: A Realistic Introduction" by Jay Wiseman, and "The Ultimate Guide to Kink" edited by Tristan Taormino.

Online articles and blogs

There are many websites and blogs dedicated to BDSM and impact play, offering tutorials, advice, and personal experiences. Some reputable sources include Kink Academy, Autostraddle, and Submissive Guide. Remember to critically evaluate the credibility and safety of the information presented in online resources.

Workshops and classes

Many local BDSM or kink communities offer workshops and classes on various aspects of impact play, providing hands-on learning opportunities. Websites like FetLife can help you find events and workshops in your area. These can be really fun and can act as a bonding experience for you and your partner.

Instructional videos

Video platforms like YouTube and Vimeo host a ton of instructional videos on impact play techniques, safety, and aftercare. Be sure to search for reputable educators and creators who prioritize safety and consent in their content.

BDSM conferences and conventions

Annual events like the BDSM Writers Con and DomCon offer workshops, presentations, and demonstrations on various aspects of BDSM, including impact play.


Experienced practitioners within the BDSM community can be invaluable resources for learning about impact play. Connecting with a mentor can provide personalized guidance, support, and advice as you develop your skills.

Online forums and discussion groups

Websites like Reddit and FetLife host forums and discussion groups where individuals can ask questions, share experiences, and learn from others in the BDSM community. It might be fun to connect with like-minded people.

When exploring these resources, keep in mind that safety, consent, and communication should be at the core of any impact play education. Make sure to verify the credibility of the sources you consult, and don't be afraid to ask questions and seek guidance from experienced practitioners. Happy learning!

The Impact Play Aftercare - Cuddles and Kisses, and TLC

After a session of impact play, it's essential to engage in aftercare to help both partners transition back to everyday life. This can involve cuddling, gentle caresses, or soothing words of affirmation. Remember, BDSM is about trust, communication, and mutual pleasure. So, after you've spanked your way into blissful oblivion, make sure to show your partner some tender loving care.

In conclusion, impact play can be a thrilling and enjoyable aspect of BDSM when done safely and consensually. Whether you're a seasoned kinkster or a curious newbie, there's a world of tantalizing sensations waiting to be explored. So go ahead, indulge in that spanking fantasy – your cheeky side will thank you!